Saturday, March 26, 2011

Changing Expectations

When I became a parent 10 years ago I had expectations about what parenting would be like and what my children would be like. Man, was I stupid.. For the most part, all of that has been thrown out the window.

My newest change of expectation is with my children's performance in school.

When I was a kid, high grades were a big deal to me. My parents didn't push honor role or anything like that, but that's what I always shot for. I think it was my way of trying to get their attention, but that didn't work. Hell, even in college, at the age of 35, I put an enormous amount of pressure upon myself to have a 4.0 gpa. Why, I don't know. The guy with the 2.0 has the same degree that I do.

Recently my daughter's school showed a documentary about how a teenage girl killed herself because she didn't do well in school. It really struck a chord with me because I know how hard I have pushed the kids to do really well in school. I also know how freaked out they act when they don't do well, especially Alissa, and it is all my fault.

I know the kind of pressure I felt in school and it didn't come from my parents, it came from me. I'm sure they feel enough pressure with schools making such a big deal about "state tests" and their funding depending on results. They don't need dad going ballistic when a low test score comes in.

D's and F's are not going to be OK, but C's are no longer going to be frowned upon.

I don't like to say I'm lowering my expectations, just changing them. I would rather see my kids enjoy being a kid, than to watch them stress out about not logging enough reading minutes.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Still Around

I haven't shut this thing down. I have been really busy, but the main thing that has kept me away from here is a bad neck.

A bulging disc has jacked up my left arm and hand, making it very difficult to type. Not that I'm a speedy typist, but this makes it next to impossible with two hands. And sitting at the computer can get very painful.

I got a cortisone shot in my neck a few weeks ago, and it helped, but things are not 100%. The doctor said it may take a couple of shots, but they are $800 a pop! I haven't met my $2400 deductible yet, so it may be a while before I get another one.

Doctor says this is a common ailment and that it is just a sign that I'm getting older. That sucks.

He did say there is surgery for this and it was routine. I'm not really into surgery, so I might be talking to a chiropractor or acupuncturist.

Anyways, the hand felt good enough to do this post, so I'll try to suck it up and occasionally make an appearance here.

The Shiny Blue Bottle

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Indio, California, United States
My 9-year-old daughter gave me a bottle for my birthday. She told me the shiny blue bottle was filled with her love. I'm not sure I'll ever get a better gift.